A female condom, also known as an internal condom, can help prevent pregnancy and transmission of HIV and STIs. It has several advantages over the more popular external condom: nitrile is a stronger and thinner material than latex; the two rings can enhance pleasure; and, you can cuddle afterwards thanks to reduced risk of semen slipping out.
HSV-1, or herpes simplex virus type 1, is usually known as “oral herpes” because it often results in oral infections, while HSV-2 lives near the bottom of the spine and is often called “genital herpes” due to causing infections on the genitals. Both HSV-1 and HSV-2 can be transmitted through oral sex because herpes is spread through skin-to-skin contact. It’s always best to use a barrier such as an external (“male”) condom or dental dam when giving or receiving oral sex.
Culturally speaking, movies and other forms of media have led us to believe there are differences in how people achieve orgasms. Rather than there being physical differences, it’s more likely sociocultural factors that give us the perception that orgasms differ- such as certain people being loud or quiet, how each of us achieves orgasm, or how much pleasure we are expected to give or receive.
There is no single definition of virgin. To one person, being a virgin might mean that they haven’t had any kind of sex, while for others being a virgin might mean they’ve had oral sex but no penetrative sex. Defining our own virginity is a personal process that only we can answer for ourselves and ourselves only. Other people might choose to define virginity in their own way and our definition only applies to us.
There is no one-size fits all definition for sex. It can be a noun that relates to sex at birth, or it can be a verb, as in “I had sex with them”. The definition of sex as a verb largely relies on our culture and upbringing. Some may count only penetration as sex while others might count foreplay as sex. To talk about sex we must also talk about consent, meaning everyone involved has given their un-coerced “yes” to engage in the act. Consent does not simply factor into penetrative sex either. Everything from kissing to foreplay to holding hands with someone require that the person be an engaged party who is also into the idea of having sex.
Before engaging in any sexual activity with a new partner, it’s helpful to have the “talk” with them about your sexual histories and preferences. This will help clarify what you want both want out of each other and whether or not you’re compatible sexually. If you don’t feel comfortable bringing this topic up with them, this may reflect on your comfort with them in general and desire and readiness to take it to that level.
This “talk” is an awkward but necessary conversation for all of us to have. Some people may feel most comfortable going about it in a joking manner while others want to get straight to the point. Honesty and directness is best here, make sure what you know what you want to ask and what you hope to find out from this conversation.
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Young kids often have a ton of questions, it might be best to start there. Ask them about what they know and what questions they might have. Their knowledge and understanding might surprise you. Stay open-minded and non-judgmental throughout the conversation. It’s ok to not have all the answers. Another tip is to remember their age and tailor your responses to their level of understanding.
A condom should always be put on properly BEFORE any sexual contact. Beginning to have sex and then putting a condom on before a partner ejaculates may seem like a reasonable choice but at that point there has already been skin-to-skin contact, and an exchange of fluids. Both can lead to the transmission of STIs and/or pregnancy. There is no hard rule when it comes to who should have the condoms; however, the safest and most responsible choice is to always have some condoms on hand for yourself.
The issue here could be physical where a partner can only achieve orgasm from certain positions, or emotional where they carry a certain shyness around trying anything new in the bedroom. Another physical consideration might be erectile issues for partners with a penis. All three require comfort and care in bringing them up with our partner. Asking your partner about their likes and dislikes might shed some light on why they’ve stuck to missionary position. This conversation could open the door for the opportunity to talk about other positions or forms of foreplay in the bedroom